a meditation on boundaries

theunitofcaring: i.  Back when I thought I was straight I would go on dates with boys. The boys would usually want to kiss me. I disliked kissing, but I thought that their preferences deserved to count as much as mine, and I reasoned that they probably liked kissing more than I disliked kissing. So kissing…

leighalanna: smortsantiago: polyamorous-miss: sexistentialisms: Basic consent practice you should do: when someone tells you a boundary or a need, thank them. Healthy relationship dynamics aren’t just about not doing shitty things. You need to actively cultivate a dynamic in which everyone is comfortable articulating boundaries and needs and knowing that those needs will be respected…

weirdlyghostly: feferi: there has been a pretty far-reaching trend on this website to blog about the effects of mental illness and trauma on emotional regulation and an aggressive campaign to get people to not only understand but accept boundary-crossing behavior from people because it is a reflection of their mental illness/trauma, as far as to…

A message about boundary violation

punch-your-buns: I had a friend in high school and his favorite thing was to cuddle on the couch and fall asleep while watching a movie and I didn’t mind it so much until I started dating someone and my friend asked to do it again and I said no because I’m dating someone and I…